Love By Design
You’ve Been Fighting Your Natural Energy Flow
And Wondering Why Relationships Feels So Hard
It’s time to understand how you’re actually wired to connect.
You Didn’t Choose How Your Energy Connects!
You Were Born With It!!
You weren’t born “too needy,” “too independent,” or “too complicated.”
You weren’t born “too slow to decide” or “too quick to attach.”
You just have a specific way your energy naturally flows — how it moves inside you, how it bridges with others, and what it needs to feel safe, clear, and connected.
Human Design calls this your Definition Type —
the way your centers are connected, and whether you’re more self-contained, designed for partnership, wired for community, or here to sample and reflect the world.
When you don’t know your Definition, you spend years:
🚫 Forcing yourself to connect like everyone else
🚫 Dating people who exhaust your system
🚫 Questioning your pace, your needs, and your “capacity for love”
When you do know it, you finally understand:
“Oh. There was nothing wrong with me.
My energy just works differently — by design.”
Here’s What Your Definition Report reveals:
Why you process relationships, emotions, and decisions the way you do — and why it was never “wrong”
How your energy naturally flows: whether you’re self-contained, designed for partnership, wired for community, or meant to sample many connections
Why certain people feel grounding, clear, and easy — and others feel confusing, draining, or “too much”
How much space, time, and variety your system actually needs in love (versus what you’ve been forcing)
The specific kind of partner whose energy complements yours — instead of complicating it
This is the clarity your relationships have been waiting for.
You Don’t Need More Relationship Rules.
You Need to Know Your Real Energy Design.
No more forcing connection.
No more questioning your pace.
No more wondering why you feel “different.”
Your Definition isn’t a problem to fix.
It’s the map to the love you were always designed for.
Your energy isn’t the problem.
Fighting your design is.
I Love Human Design for Love Because...
I Needed to Understand Why I Kept Looking for Someone to “Complete” Me.
I didn’t come to Human Design because I was curious.
I came because I was exhausted.
As a Split Definition, my energy is literally wired to bridge with others.
Relationship is natural for me. Connection feels like home.
So of course I kept looking for someone to complete me.
Of course I kept saying yes to men who felt familiar, even when the relationship wasn’t healthy.
Of course I kept getting engaged — again and again — because that’s where my system felt most “whole.”
I wasn’t crazy.
I was unconscious to how my Definition was running the show.
Human Design gave me language for what I’d been living and
👉🏼 Most importantly, it helped me see the difference between:
Any bridge… and the right bridge.
Whether you're the Self-Contained Lover (Single), The Bridging Lover (Split Definition), The Community or Network Lover (Triple/Quad Split) Or the Sampling Lover (Reflector), when you understand your Definition, you stop asking,
“What’s wrong with me?”
And you start asking,
“What does my energy actually need to feel loved, safe, and clear?”
If you’re done forcing yourself to connect like everyone else —and you’re ready for language that finally makes sense of your patterns —
I’d love to show you.
✧ Joan
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